3 Steps To Overcoming Negative Feelings

First off, I want to say that there are really no “negative” feelings. Feelings are neither good or bad. They just are. So when I said “negative” feelings in the title – what did I mean? I’m talking about those emotions that tend to lead to isolation, depression and other negative outcomes.The feelings themselves aren’t bad. We just need to learn how to use those feelings so that they lead us on a more positive path. 1. Awareness The 1st step is to be aware of the feeling. This may sound simple, but I want you to dig deep. Get beyond the surface emotions and find out what is really driving them. You may feel out of sorts, bitchy, like you continually wake up on the wrong side of the bed. But why? What is really driving that feeling? Is it sadness, discouragement, resentment? Then take it deeper still. For example, “Ok, I’m feeling sad about my breakup. Why? I’m sad that my dreams didn’t come true. Why? That might mean that I was wrong about everything and that makes me feel worthless and stupid.” When you get to the end of the string of whys – then you have found your true feelings. Becoming aware is an intense process. You have to live with your feelings, invite them in, ask them questions – maybe wallow in them a little bit to get to the real cause. This takes courage as most of us want a quick fix and/or to appear happy – so we stuff them down, don’t deal with these feelings, and then act surprised when they surface again down the road. 2. Acceptance The 2nd step is acceptance. Don’t judge your feelings or yourself for having them. As I said before, there are no negative feelings. Accept them – put down that 2×4 and stop beating yourself up for having them. Accept how they are affecting your life. If they are keeping you from forging new relationships – realize this and accept it. Accept them FOR NOW. Once you have accepted them, you will start hearing a little voice inside you or maybe more of a burning feeling deep in your gut telling you that it is time to change them and to take… 3. Action Now that you are aware and have accepted your true feelings and what impact they are having on your life, it is time to take action. So, what can you do? It doesn’t need to be a big action – like moving to another country and getting rid of all your stuff (although if that is what you are called to do – the more power to you). Start small. If you are feeling resentment, start practicing forgiveness by praying for the person who did you wrong. If you are feeling worthless and undeserving of the good things in life, start practicing gratitude by listing 5 things everyday that you currently are blessed to have in your life. Focus on an action that addresses the true feeling, not the symptom of that feeling (that can come later). For example, take action on your feeling of emptiness that you currently trying to fill with food instead of just going on a diet. Or take action on your feelings of sadness that are leading you to isolate instead of just forcing yourself to go out and party. Final Thoughts So just like AAA (Automobile Association of America) can get you back on the road when you have a flat tire or lock your keys inside your car, the 3 AAAs of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action can get you back on the road to living the vibrant life you desire. It’s up to you. Take the trip to the root of your feelings and see where they lead you.

Feng Shui Of Dragon in the Year 2013

Who is a Dragon? Years: 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012. Month*: April Hour: 07:00 am – 09:00 am * Caution: the start of the Chinese month can be as early as the 4th & as late as the 9th, depending on the year. I can let you know this too. What is a Dragon? The Dragon is yang earth, the most egotistical of the branches as well as being generally considered the most powerful. Putting aside conventional rules of animal compatibility, everyone is either fascinated by the Dragon or suspicious. Many are both. Though charming and affable, like the Pig, the Horse and the Rooster, the Dragon suffers the self clash which makes him unsuited to working with his equals. Dragons often live alone and enjoy their own company. Sometimes they claim to even when they don’t. Often what he experiences as joy is a subtle experience that others find puzzling. The Horse for instance who likes to dance on tables, sometimes thinks the Dragon is a high maintenance prima donna. Even the Dragon’s ally the Monkey, contrasts his own goonish delights with the impassive Dragon and can make no sense of it. And yet the Dragon delivers. Sometimes awkward and gauche, the Dragon can appear incompetent and yet still win. The steadfast Dog whose workings always lead to a logical answer detests this about the Dragon and may sabotage him. Put simply the Dog thinks the Dragon goes on a bit. The Ox and the Sheep share something of this attitude but are more passive about it. The Chinese ideogram for thunder is a Dragon under a raincloud. Remember that all over the world rainclouds speak of plenty. Drenched is good if you’re looking for growth. The Dragon month is April, the time of sudden change. The character of the Dragon is like the awkward times before a storm breaks. The Dragon does not naturally co-operate or easily share confidences. He will, however, grudgingly work with those he considers his inferiors as long as they are very clear about the pecking order. This is the central weakness of the unbalanced Dragon. King Lear was a Dragon where Othello may have been a Tiger and Hamlet probably a Snake. The Dragon’s traditional partners are the hands-on Monkey and the plotting Rat. These three may not mix socially however. They need a task to cooperate upon, otherwise they find it hard to connect. Socially the Dragon will seek out the Rooster and the Horse both of whom can act as pr or spokesperson. Alone or teamed-up, the Dragon is just as creative as he feels like being. He can instantly magic up wealth and as rapidly squander it. Neither Horse nor Rooster are much help in this regard, although a benevolent Rat and a diligent Monkey would be. The Dragon and the Snake form the House of Magic. The Dragon is the Sorceror, the Snake his apprentice. So Merlin was a Dragon and his story illustrates the other central weakness of the Dragon: that he can be beguiled by the glamour of the Rooster. This coupling takes the Dragon off track. In a Rooster year the Dragon may forget all his carefully laid plans and go off-piste. In a Rabbit year he may have to defend himself but either is preferable to the Tiger year which will have found him settling into quicksand. Note to Employers: A Dragon employee is the best there is if the task suits him. It had better suit him because he will do precisely what he feels like either way. Dragon 2013: Stars include: Tian Xi Happiness, Mo Yue Achievement, Sui Sha Precarious. You’ll receive many offers of help this year. Some of it will actually be helpful. The Snake is the Sorceror’s Apprentice and you’re the Sorceror. You’ve always been besieged by those who want a piece of you and seem to disguise it as advice. You misunderstood; that was the universe making sure you could get done all the things that keep you running to stay in the same place. This year receive, let yourself be helped, empowered, soured, sponsored. Your projects are funded and supported and ready to go even if it doesn’t yet seem that way. You’ve not been good at letting yourself be helped or at appreciating those who offer it. You’d generally prefer to be left to your own devices. Tough. This year may also be the year you take on coaching, teaching, training in earnest. You may be swamped with apprentices. You’ve got some growing to do this year. For them you have to do it. It’ll be worth it, you’ll see. You’ve been in some sort of crisis for a while. And for the Dragon, crisis means ego. You feel beaten or rejected or bested in some way and you don’t feel you can ever let your smile reach your eyes again. You know you’re the one doing it. You are so attached to outside approval that you can’t even be yourself without permission. You have to be the person you appeared to be last time that permission was denied. You have to be the best. In this one regard -whatever it was-you appeared not to be. And you can’t get over it. That’s how ego is. There will be more moments of crisis this year. But now you know that each such distraction is an opportunity to be still at the heart of chaos. Whatever sensation you associate with crises and upset are best felt all the way through this year. Generally Dragons assume they are the best and mostly they’re right. They don’t usually bother with jealousy or defeatism or competitions that they don’t know they’ll stroll. But during the Dragon year you’ve bought into the sort of self-defeating crud you swore you’d never entertain and the consequent shame just makes it worse. This year the Fire of the Snake is the dawning of bright light that takes you all the way into 2016. This involves new skills, new people, new places, new departures. Get flexible. You can’t control everything. There remains a danger you’ll take on too much. It’s a very Dragon thing. Apprentices, assistants and mentees are there to help you. Let them. If you broad-brush, especially over documents to do with finance you may be a long time clearing up the consequent mess. Hexagram 34. It’s possible the work you’re on the planet for will become clear this year. For older Dragons it may even complete. Look beyond the horizon if you want 2014 and after to be equally satisfying. Sometimes you need to seek the question before the answer is any use to you. Health: better than last year. Care with lungs and stomach. Money: plenty but not all yours, a good year to pursue grants and funding. Relationship: some distraction likely. Feng Shui: activate Monkey (SW3) & Rat (N2) on appropriate days. Apply within. Readers’ Digest Version: Let go. There is very little you can control.

3 Keys To A Good Life

There are 3 important keys that anyone that desires a truly fulfilling life must include as part of their existence. Making these keys an integral part of you, will undoubtedly reshape your outlook and destiny in ways you never imagined. If you want to truly take in this wild ride that is your life to its fullest, here are the 3 keys that can enhance your experience: Study Aspire to gain more knowledge. There is no limit to the amount you can learn. Can you believe that 95% of the population read 1 book or less per year? Think of the knowledge at your fingertips on the web. On this site alone there are over 450 articles that can spark transformation and improvement within you. Make it your duty to always go into the details and learn as much as possible. Study your craft, your work, whatever it is that you do. Take the time to learn everything there is about it. Research If you are at a roadblock or are void of an answer or solution, seek it. Go out there and get your hands dirty. Research, everything can be found out. Only by searching can we find a solution. Don’t wait for an answer to come to you. It may or it may not. But if you initiate the search, you will find your solution, no doubt about it. Dare to ask the questions that haven’t been asked, and be curious enough to search where few dare to search. It’s this way that you can come across true gems. Capture It’s one thing to study and do your research, but all of that is pointless if you do not properly capture the information or the moment. When you capture something, it becomes a part of you. You have it right there within your being. Capturing is experiencing completely. Make it a point to feel things, and to get close and touch, taste, hear, and see. Go out in the world and experience all that you can. The more senses you include, the easier the information and experience is properly captured. Don’t just be a spectator in your life, but make life flow right through you!

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4 Kesan Ketara Akibat Dari Banyak Berfikiran Negatif

Untuk kita benar-benar berjaya merubah diri kepada fikiran positif, kita kena tahu dulu akibat dari berfikiran negatif. Bila Anda berfikiran negatif (walaupun sedikit) kita akan ditemukan dengan pelbagai permasalahan secara tidak sengaja dan kebetulan - mengakibatkan kita kerugian masa, tenaga dan wang ringgit. Rugi, rugi, rugi. Banyak rugi. Kesan kedua, kita akan susah untuk bermotivasi. Asyik tak bersemangat saja, rasa malas, berat tulang nak buat kerja. Walaupun ada kerja yang penting untuk diselesaikan, Anda rasa macam tak nak buat lalu mendorong Anda bertangguh. Bila asyik bertangguh, kesan jangka masa panjang, prestasi Anda akan menurun. Anda jadi orang kurang cemerlang. Kesan ketiga, bila berfikiran negatif, masalah dalam hidup kita tak akan pernah surut, ada-ada saja masalah yang muncul. Masalah kecil membawa kepada masalah besar. Masalah besar yang melanda semakin membesar akhirnya membawa kepada permasalahan yang dua kali ganda lebih besar. Orang berfikiran negatif tak menumpu pada penyelesaian masalah, sebab tu masalahnya makin membesar, makin menambah. Kesan keempat, fikiran negatif akan membuat Anda memiliki tabiat negatif - tamak, dengki, gelojoh, panas baran, ego, gopoh dan paling ketara, PEMALAS! Sesiapaun tak suka berkawan dengan Anda dan tak siapa mahu menolong anda bila Anda dilanda kesusahan. Itulah 4 kesan ketara akibat dari berfikiran negatif. Banyak lagi kesan-kesan lain, tapi 4 kesan di atas adalah yang paling kerap berlaku dalam masyarakat kita.

Leka Jaku Silup

JAKO PEMUKA (Nitih ka iya ke ditulis dalam Bup Ensera ADI PAU tu) Aku ke ngusai ka jerita Ribai Datai ari Gilik Tasik Besai Alun bungai gigi gumbang. Ukai ati bisi beseni lain asai Ukai mantah besalah jalai. Tang laban deka ngingat Ka urat jerita tuai Deka ngayan ka leman asal kitai Awak ka bisi dipelemati ka sida kedudi Lalu ka penemu sida rebak baru Ka sulu pemandai bukai. Aku ke ngading ka Keling Ngara ka sida Laja Ngerintai sida Sempurai Enggau samoa bala bukai Ke di Menyaung Rabong Gegiai Lendat dibiau jila isang. Ukai ati aku beseni bisi bingking Betambah salah jai runding. Tang deka mansut ka iya ba bup Deka ngeleka ka iya ngena angka Ngambi ka bisi dibacha samoa orang Aku ke ngenang sida Kumang Ngitong sida Lulong Enggau samoa bala bukai Ke di Tigong Gelong Batu Besundang Ukai ati aku beseni udu changka Ukai sumbong panggong enda bebasa Ukai mejah mantah nama. Tang awak ka bisi pematak Sida ka anembiak mansang sekula, Lalu ka peransang orang belajar macha, Lalu ngelala guna penemu tuai. Nya alai aku minta ampun Ngagai samoa kita ka kena Sebut ensera tu. Enti jako tu bisi salah ulu Anang guai lalu nganu Tang beri aku penau penemu ngereja. Enti reti bisi salah munyi Anang lalu begedi ati, Tang beri aku pemereti luar kekira. Enti sipat iya bisi salah anggap Anang guai lalu ringat Tang ajar bejimat jalai bebasa. Enti selit bisi salah mimit Anang guai lalu michit, Tang beri kami beruru batu pengait beruit Awak ka sama betarit tarit ngaga Ensera……

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Kita gagal sebab kita disuruh berjaya

Sebut pasal gagal, ramai orang tak suka cakap. Gagal ni menyakitkan. Tiap kali ingat usaha-usaha kita yang gagal, kita jadi sakit hati. Untuk membuat kita bermotivasi sentiasa, kita perlu bersangka baik pada apa jua perkara. Ini termasuklah bersangka baik pada kegagalan. Kegagalan amat baik buat diri kita kerana ia membuat kita semakin maju ke depan sebab kita rasa tercabar. Kita gagal sebab kita disuruh untuk berjaya. Bila dah gagal, itu maknanya kita kena buat lagi dengan lebih baik di masa akan datang. Buat lagi. Andai kata gagal sekali lagi, buat lagi sampai betul-betul menjadi. Gagal hanyalah satu proses menuju kejayaan. Setiap orang yang mahu berjaya pasti akan melaluinya. Di dalam kesusahan, ada kesenangan-kesenangan yang kita tak nampak. Semua kesenangan-kesenangan tu menanti untuk kita garap, untuk kita genggam di dalam tangan kita. Kegagalan amat suka pada orang yang tak berhenti berusaha. Dia usaha, usaha, usaha tanpa mengenal erti penat lelah. Kegagalan tak suka pada orang yang usahanya hanya sementara, sebab itulah orang yang usahanya asyik berubah-ubah langsung tak pernah mencapai apa-apa kejayaan. Lihat sekeliling Anda, kita leh nampak ada banyak orang camni. Tak ada cara mudah untuk berjaya, tak ada ’shortcut’ atau jalan pintas. Anda kena berusaha keras. Anda kena menempuh kegagalan, barulah Anda beroleh kejayaan. Mulai hari ini, serapkan dalam minda yang kegagalan tu sebenarnya bukanlah perkara yang menyakitkan, sebaliknya ia perkara yang baik untuk mendidik Anda menjadi dekat dengan kejayaan. Secara saikologinya, kita kena dilatih bersusah-susah dahulu, barulah kita boleh beroleh kejayaan. Jika kita beroleh kejayaan dahulu sebelum bersusah-susah, kejayaan yang kita peroleh tu tak kekal lama, bahkan kita tak akan merasa berdaya mencapai kejayaan-kejayaan seterusnya yang jauh lebih besar, lebih hebat pencapaiannya dari kejayaan sedia ada. Lagipun, minda kita kurang ‘matang’ apabila kita bersenang-senang dulu sebelum kita bersusah-susah.

The 5 Blocks to Happiness (and How to Overcome Them)

For Aral Ukita Happiness is such a subjective term. It means so many different things to different people. But there are common blocks that apply to us all, and they may not be what you think. Let me explain. Most of us think that the blocks to our happiness involve things like not having enough money or being in a bad relationship. Whatever the case may be, we often blame our unhappiness on things and people external to us. But in doing so, we’re completely missing the mark, which is why no matter what we try we stay stuck in our unhappiness. But there’s another solution. Whenever we are unhappy is can be attributed to one or more of the reasons below. And these are the real blocks to your happiness. But the good news is, because they are within your control to change, your happiness is within your control to improve as well. Let’s take a look at these real blocks to happiness and what you can do about them. 1) Lack of self-worth and self-acceptance: When you lack self-respect and self-love and acceptance what ends up happening is you give your power away to others. You allow others to disrespect you and this causes you to feel frustrated and unhappy. Now, while it may appear like others are treating you badly, the truth is that their behaviour is simply mirroring your own beliefs about yourself. So instead of blaming others for your unhappiness, take responsibility for how you allow others to treat you, and most importantly, how you treat yourself. Main lesson 1: Take responsibility for your own life. That’s the only way anything will change. See where you are giving your power away and stop. Start talking to yourself, and about yourself, in loving terms and you will see the people and circumstances in your life change for the better too. Main lesson 2: Set healthy boundaries of what you will and will not accept from others, and then uphold them. When you show others how to respect you, they will respect you. Then make choices about who you want in your life. What are the relationships that matter to you? Which ones are toxic? Know that you have to love the soul but you don’t have to love the behaviour. So make your decisions with love and compassion and know that this doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat. It benefits all when we stand up for ourselves in a healthy way. 2) Lack of confidence; seeking approval. When you seek others’ approval to live your life by your own terms you end up chasing after something you may not even want. You allow others to dictate how happy you are based on whether or not they approve of who you are and what you’re doing. In all likelihood, there will always be someone who disagrees with you or doesn’t understand your choices, and if you live your life trying to get everyone to approve of you, you will be wasting a lot of your personal energy. This then depletes your happiness reserve as well. Find your inner confidence, the one where your self-worth doesn’t depend on anyone else’s opinion. Then live your life as you feel is best without apology and without having to defend or justify it to anyone else. Those who really matter in your life will support you either way because they love you either way. Main lesson 1: Find your inner confidence. While sometimes this seems easier said than done, it is possible if you decide it’s what you want to do. The first step to confidence is acceptance. So accept yourself as you are right now and even where you are right now. You are exactly where you need to be for your personal journey. You were made exactly as you needed to be for your personal purpose. So don’t discount your worth and don’t compare yourself to others. We each have our own path in life, sometimes they intersect, and sometimes they don’t, but either way, we each are valuable just as we are. Main lesson 2: Own your choices. Know your motivations and do your best to ensure your choices are proactive and loving and aligned with your truest desires (rather than your ego’s desires). Then you will always have the confidence to follow through on those choices and you will no longer fear making mistakes because you will realize that when your choices are rooted in love, there are no such things as mistakes; only learning opportunities. So stop questioning yourself and start taking action towards your best life now. 3) Lack of authentic direction; following the whims of your ego that are inspired by competition and a lack mentality. When you are thinking in terms of what you think you don’t have that others do, you are aligning yourself with lack of happiness and lack in general. When you chase after dreams that are based on filling a perceived void with things external to you, like material things or even relationships, then you are looking for happiness in the wrong places. It’s not the things or the people that are the issue; it’s always the motivation and intentions behind your drive that matter most. Find your inner happiness center and all those externals will become compliments to your life rather than what you depend on for your joy. Main lesson 1: Know what you want and why. Decipher between your authentic and inauthentic desires. To do this you simply need to pay attention to how you are feeling about your desires. Are you feeling a lack that you feel you need to fill, a desperation of sorts? Or are you feeling peaceful and excited to manifest what you already know is yours and within your capabilities to do, be, and have? Your motives and intentions are what determine the tone of your life experiences. If you can figure out the “what” and then the “why,” you will be ahead of the curve in living the life of your dreams. And the best part is that you will be doing so from a place of joy and inner confidence rather than a place of stress and uncertainty. Main lesson 2: Often unhappiness stems from feelings of “not enough.” When you feel lack in your life it causes you to feel depressed and lonely. But you can change that by adopting an attitude of abundance. Now this doesn’t mean pretending to be something or someone you’re not. All it means is becoming more appreciative and observant of what you already have in your life right now. When you are appreciating, that means you are not depreciating. So no matter how small you think it is, find something to be grateful for right now, and build on that feeling by seeing the world as your oyster. 4) Lack of higher purpose and grander goals and visions. When you lack purpose you lack direction and it’s much easier to get swept up in the ways of the ego that cause your unhappiness. That’s why it’s so important to figure out what drives you, what you are passionate about, and what purpose you’re driven towards. Figuring out your purpose and who you are at your core is extremely important to your level of happiness. Main lesson 1: In order to find your purpose, which will ultimately bring you immense joy and satisfaction, simply ask yourself a series of questions like, “What do I feel called to do in my life? What am I passionate about? What qualities do I have that can be valued and shared with the world? What am I exceptionally good at? What kind of person do I want to be? What do I want my legacy to be?” Main lesson 2: But remember that your purpose is something you infuse into everything you do and everything you are. It’s not just about your vocation. It’s about what fuels you in every area of your life. Look to your passions and truest desires and there you will find your purpose. 5) Lack of priorities; misguided and scattered energy. You need to define what happiness means to you personally and then prioritize those things, people, and activities that mean the most to you. Then make time for it all. It’s about balance and delegation where necessary. It’s about finding your inner Zen, which gives you the energy and strength for everything you need to accomplish in life. Main lesson 1: What’s important to you? If you strip away all the distractions in your life for one moment, what are you left with? Why are you doing all of this in the first place? Figure out what’s most important to you and then make sure you make it a priority in your life. Main lesson 2: Understand that being balanced in your life is extremely important to your overall happiness and well-being. That doesn’t mean that sometimes certain things won’t grab at your attention more than others. It simply means that if you look at each year or even each month of your life, for instance, that you’ll be able to say that you gave every area of your life its fair dues. It means that you realize that life is not a dress rehearsal and that you get out of it what you put into it. So learn to prioritize and you will no longer feel the pains of regret for days gone by where you didn’t do what you really wanted to do. Make this life and every moment count and you’ll be happier for it. So these are the 5 blocks to your happiness. They may not be the most obvious blocks, but guaranteed, they are key factors in how happy your life will be. So figure out which of these blocks apply to you and then choose to do something about it. Know that patchwork never works in the long run and so if you want to truly be happy from the inside-out, you’re going to have to address these issues in one way or another. But it’s always your choice and that’s the most empowering part. LOL : HENRIQUE GARET

It is Not Enough to Live By Default

Start Living By Design Whether they like it or they don’t like it,Whether you even believe it or you don’t believe it yourself, YOU are a genius somehow in your own way. Research has shown that, there’s something you can do better than the next ten thousand persons.There are times you experience sparks of exceptional brilliance in your doings, This occasional sparks in you... can turn to habitual brilliance and greatness. How?First of all discover your strengths,Master things in the area of your strengths, Under study giants that have succeeded in the area of your strength,Play only to your strengths always and never to your weaknesses,Believe in your strength more than anyone can ever make you doubt it,Determine to be the BEST in the area of your strength... Give your strength all that it takes, and You will be surprised at who... and what you will turn out to become. To live by default is to live an average life with limitations from weaknesses, and to live by design is to become great in the area of one’s strengths through continuous and never-ending personal mastery. “GENIUS IS SELF BESTOWED... MEDIOCRITY IS SELF-INFLICTED”

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